|Source: KN 2011|
Friendships fall apart. Love falls apart. Families, they fall apart too. Is it hopeless when this happens? Was it just how it was supposed to be? I think, regarding interpersonal relationships, just like anything ill-built it needs to fall apart for something good, solid and stable to be built in it's place. Any relationship you may have that falls apart is an example of something poorly built up in the first place. Whether through lies, betrayal, silence or even something as innocent as distance, some things just aren't meant to hold and these are the hints of that. I believe wholly that you have to let it fall apart and scatter just to get to the part where something awesome and stronger rises up. Allow yourself to move with grace through the pain of the moment and onward to the next phase of building. You've learned a lot from that last fall. Though you might still be hurting too much to see it yet. You know what you did last time that engaged the demise. Were you quiet about things that bothered you? Were you afraid of setting boundaries? Did you just not pick up the phone and call, those times you actually did think about it. Did things happen and happen and instead of calmly letting your feelings and thoughts be heard you chose to sever ties? It has to happen, if it happens at all.
After a good fall, when something you've been holding onto has released from your grasp and hit the floor, scattering, I suggest you remain hopeful. Don't get too bummed out. It'll pass. The only conscious part you really have to take in this is the building thereafter. The next time you see a relationship with someone leading a certain direction have the courage to speak up. If it's worth salvaging you have got to speak up. You have got to do your part whether by keeping in touch, setting boundaries or just letting your voice be heard about something, you've got to do it.
You have to save whats worth saving and let go of what isn't. This is your happiness we're talking about, afterall.